Sensuality, Sexuality, Survival

People often ask me why I chose Pure Romance - Here is one of the reasons:

Sensuality, Sexuality, Survival Foundation

The Challenge

Approximately 200,000 women a year are diagnosed with breast cancer in the United States alone (ACS).

Approximately 50% of women treated for breast cancer suffer from sexual dysfunction, sometimes up to five years after surgery or treatment (Fleming & Kleinbart, 2001).

Many women find the degree of support and information they obtained from their health care providers regarding their sexuality following breast cancer treatments to be lacking (Wilmoth, 2001)

The Mission

To help women recapture their sensual and sexual selves through education, empowerment, and safe product offerings designed specifically for women following cancer diagnosis and treatment.

The Pledge

Offer safe products to enhance women’s sexual experiences

Raise public awareness on intimacy and sexual challenges faced by women with breast cancer

Provide ongoing support through current literature and specially trained Pure Romance Consultants

Provide an ongoing support network for women and their partners

Develop and maintain programs to educate and support women living with breast cancer

If you are interested in hosting a fundraising party for SSS or any other charity or foundation, please contact me.

Too Beat for Booty

Everyday stressors can wreak havoc with your sex life. We know this, we feel this every time we are thinking that if he would just finish we could get 7 hours of sleep. However, little is known about the physiologic effects of stress on sexual functioning. But the effects of stress on the mind are well documented. Since sexual desire originates in the brain, it's not surprising that the mind-altering effects of stress can also become libido altering and include:

• Negative emotions
• Anxiety that can overpower the relaxation necessary for successful lovemaking. If left unchecked, stress can also lead to depression, a condition well known for lowering your libido. If you take anti-depressant or anti-anxiety medications, they may boost your mood but depress your sex drive or ability to achieve orgasm
• Research has shown that certain anti-depressant medications—and especially selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitors (SSRIs) such as Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa and Lexapro can reduce arousal and/or decrease one’s ability to climax. In fact, SSRIs are frequently prescribed to men who suffer from premature ejaculation
  
• Concentration problems - It's important during sexual activity to focus on the eroticism of the moment. If that erotic focus is distracted or lost during love-making—if in the back of you're head you're thinking about that meeting you have scheduled tomorrow morning—that can lead to difficulty with erection, or vaginal dryness and difficulty achieving orgasm.

The good news is that your every orgasm doesn't have to lose out to your boss's bitchiness or the pending mortgage payment. Weaving quality love-making into a whirlwind schedule may be challenging, but it's far from impossible.

Try these techniques as starters for decreasing stress and increasing sex:

• Plan for sex - Having sex at the end of the workday may not be the optimal time. This is not the ideal environment for 45 minutes of foreplay, 20 minutes of lovemaking, and 30 minutes of afterglow. Therapists recommend setting a date one to three times a week, even if it's only for an hour.
  
• Say what you feel - Once a day, tell your partner what you love about him or her. It takes just a minute. Women access their sexual feelings through being emotionally close with their partners and men access closeness to a partner through the experience of sex. If this applies to your relationship, realize that saying how you feel about your partner, even if you don't feel close to him/her at that moment, can promote physical closeness. And even if you don't feel like being sexual, an affectionate touch might encourage him/her to communicate more.
• Remember the importance (and fun!) of sex. If you look at sex as one more thing that you should be doing as part of a good marriage then it becomes just one more stressor. Remember how much fun sex can be, and how important intimacy is amid the noise of everyday life.
  

Happy Hour Parties

Hey Ladies 

Are your summer weekends booked like crazy? Mine too! Why not have a week night happy hour party? Reserve a Monday through Thursday night party with me, serve cocktails and apps and everyone is home by 9! 

Weeknight parties get extra hostess credits, which means you get an an average of $105 dollars to spend on whatever you want rather than an average of $70.  Pretty awesome, plus you get a "Week Night Warrior" packages that includes an extra $20 in products.

Let me know which night you want to reserve! 

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When He's Just A Little Too Excited

Dealing with Premature Ejaculation...

Premature ejaculation is defined as "the occurrence of ejaculation prior to the wishes of both sexual partners." So, there is no set time limit. Nothing that states - if your fountain turns on after 2 minutes that's ok, but less 1:59 and we've got an issue. That means a lot more men have the condition than you probably think. If your partner climaxes before you are ready, that can be classified as premature ejaculation. This is one of the most common sexual dysfunctions for men under 40 and some researchers think PE could affect one in three men. If PE occurs during more than 50% of sexual encounters, treatment may be an option.

There are many causes of PE, including:

• Being in repeated instances where a man may have hurried to climax (think junior high, don't want to get caught wacking off)
• Anxiety/Stress
• Abnormal hormone levels
• Thyroid problems
• Infection of penis or urethra

If you are dealing with a serious issue that is causing realtionship problems or is affecting sexual satisfaction, it is important to contact your healthcare provider who can provide medical treatment or refer you to a sex therapist. Two techniques that are often recommended by sex therapists are The Squeeze Technique and Stop Start Technique.

Squeeze Technique
1. Engage in sexual activity as usual until he feels like he's ready to pop
2. Have him squeeze the end of his penis where the head joins the shaft and maintain the squeeze until the urge subsides
3. Wait about 30 seconds and start again with foreplay, not intercourse
4.Repeat this several times before finally allowing him to orgasm

Stop Start Technique
1. A man should start masturbating with a dry hand (or you can do it for him if you want to play too)
2.Vary stroking technique to prolong orgasm
3. When he feels close, back off and start again as he feels further from ejacualtion
4. Do this a couple of times a week and as you find him taking longer to orgasm, move to manual stimulation with lubrication
5. You know what's coming, right? Move to oral stimulation using the same technique and eventually intercourse
6. It's important not to engage in intercourse until he is ready. Mixing the stop start technique with regular intercourse will not allow the training to work effectively!

If you've just got a sometimes issue or you simply want to try something new, try Time in a Bottle. It's a prolonging cream made with benzocaine to help even out the playing field.

Happy Humping!

Holy G Spot!

For some women, the G-Spot is an area that can yield intense pleasure, others can take it or leave it and more than a few are still trying to find it. Whatever category you fall in, let's make sure you're well informed about the holy grail.

To find her Insert a finger into the vagina and move it up the upper wall of the vagina. There is an area of tissue about one or two inches inside on the upper wall of the vagina that feels noticeably different to the rest of the wall of the vagina. When a woman is sexually aroused, it swells and becomes smooth and soft. When her arousal drops, it becomes harder and feels more ridged. For a G-spot orgasm to occur, generally the G-spot will have to be smooth, relaxed and engorged.

G-spot simulation sometimes feel similar to "I gotta pee!", which may last up to a minute. This is because the G-spot is so close to the bladder. You may be tempted to stop the stimulation because you think you might be going to urinate, but the feeling will change to a highly sexual pleasurable feeling, and the orgasm that follows can be deeper and more profound than a clitoral orgasm. Please keep in mind that not all women will find G-Spot stimulation pleasurable, so if you don't like it go with what works! There is no law that says you must have a G-Spot orgasm to be successful in the sack!

If you're trying this for the first time, have your partner place the heel of their hand over your clitoris and their fingers curved down and round to enter your vagina. If your partner makes a "come here" motion with the fingers that are inside you vagina, your G-spot should begin to respond and you may begin to feel pleasure. Try different motions: pressing, rubbing, thrusting at various speeds until you find what works for you. .

Let me know how it goes and feel free to email with any questions!

Vaginal and Clitoral Orgasms

The male orgasm is pretty straightforward – strength of orgasm may vary, but overall, everything is pretty much status quo in your man's pants.

As we know, women are more complex. We have a wide array of erogenous zones, including nipples, ears, feet, etc. Typically, however, the zones that produce the most O's are the vagina, the clitoris and the elusive G-Spot.

Here’s a little introduction to each of these pleasure zones:

CLITORIS:

• Its only physical function is to provide sexual pleasure
  
• Direct clitoral stimulation is is often less pleasurable than stimulation of the areas surrounding the clitoris
  
• The clitoris extends about 5 inches inside the body
• The clitoris packs about 8 to 12, 000 nerve endings, that's as much an the entire penis and testicles combined.
  
• Most women claim that the clitoral orgasm is the most intense
• In his book Sexual Behavior on the Human Female (1953), Charles Kinsey found that out of 2700 American women, half received orgasm through clitoral stimulation

VAGINAL:

• Top one to three inches of the vagina is the most sensitive
• Many women claim that it is more difficult to achieve a vaginal orgasm than a clitoral one.
• Freud labeled this type of orgasm as the “mature” type, whereas the clitoral orgasm was an “immature” type of sexual experience (A General Introduction to Psychoanalysis, 1916)

It is important to note, however, that one type of orgasm is not better than the other – they are simply two different ways of experiencing pleasure.

Every woman has her own preference over which orgasm provides the best pleasure and an increasing number of women are learning to have both!

Tomorrow, we'll venture down the road to the holy grail-the G Spot Orgasm.